Thursday, August 03, 2006

Life can be stressful

So I'm sure most people think that being a stay at home mom isn't that hard. Let me tell you they would be wrong. I've been feeling a little stressed out about the upcoming music camp. As I have said before it is my first year as vocal director. Normally I don't think I would be that stressed out but we don't have any guests this year. At least the instrumental director found someone to lead faculty and A band. I will be leading the main choir and the faculty women's chorus. It has been awhile since I last lead a group. I know god has chose me to do this job, I just hope he carries me through the week. I know he will.
Anyway back to the stay at home mom stuff. I sometimes feel like I don't have any patience. I have to remind myself that Taylor is only 2 and 1/2. I also need to remind myself that who cares if the house isn't perfect. I know to some who have come over, that my house isn't Martha Stewart worthy. It probably was but that was before the kids even got up. It doesn't have to be perfect. I feel like I am cleaning up the toys constantly all day long. I need to just let go. Please tell me there are others out there that feel the same way.
Enough ranting. Today was a great day. The best shopping day I've had with both kids. Taylor stayed right with me and she didn't even run around. I though I had the double stroller but I had the single with the skateboard. She is finally liking the skateboard. Of course she would because we just got the double stroller not too long ago. I was so proud of her. Hopefully our Costco trip, tomorrow, will be as successful. I hope everyone reading this had a great day.
Can't wait for you to come home, Joy.

11 comments:

Miranda said...

Oh my gosh I feel exactly the same way. Some days I seriously think i am going to lose my mind. i just lose patience and I feel like my house is a disaster zone. People seem to think i have it all together because I do crafts with Isabelle...only for my own sanity. If she is bored then the day is horrid! You are not alone that's for sure. And who thinks it's easy being a SAHM? People who have no kids or people with docile children I bet. LOL Being a mom is the hardest(but best) job in the world.

K said...

kirsten-
if you are going to "slack" on anything, i think almost anyone would agree (and those that don't agree are just plain weird) that you should choose to let the housework slide a little rather than letting the parenting slide.
being a good mother to your kids is much better than having a "martha stewart" house. for those that can do both...great...but not everyone can (and i fully expect to be in the "can't" category if and when that happens).

Dee said...

I'm always amazed at moms who keep their house immaculate. And it actually makes me wonder a little what their kids are doing to entertain themselves while they are slaving away at housework....

I can't speak from experience as a mom, but I bet people with houses that are a little messy end up raising well rounded kids....at least I'd like to think so because my house was often messy growing up, but I have lots of fun memories playing with my parents!

Desiree said...

I am an obsessive neat freak, so letting my house get messy just frustrates me even more. Maybe it's just because I have always done it since my kids were born, but I take a few hours one day a week and do a major house clean. I have a good routine so it works well. Walker just plays while I am doing it and Haven will watch me in her bouncy chair or exersaucer. If she cries a little it's okay. If she cries a little more or if Walker needs me, I stop and take a little break. What is important is that you do what is right for you. This works for me, but might not work for everybody. And I get frustrated sometimes too, especially when my kids are bored. And they get bored a lot, there isn't much to do around here. Having kids has taught me to try and be a little more patient, cause I am naturally a very impatient person, which can make this sahm thing an even harder job. And having more kids can make it even more trying(but that doesn't scare me from having more). So I hope you feel better especially in knowing that you are totally not alone! Hugs!

Tammy & Jeremy said...

Parenting can't be easy and I'm sure some days you just want to lay down and sleep from morning till dusk. I know I will have a hard time with the mess too, but being a mother is the most important thing ever.

Congrats on being the vocal leader at camp. I had no idea that you did that sort of thing but I'm sure you will do very well!

Anonymous said...

You will do a fabulous job at music camp. God will bless your efforts. As for the house, let it go. I speak from experience as an ex-SAHM. The kids are gone way too fast. They are the most important. You are a great mom and your kids are super.
Love you, Char J

--Nathan-- said...

anyone looking for a 23 year old single males perspective??? i knew you were!!

Kirst, you are a great mom and you're raising great kids.. the mess is relativly contained and honestly isnt that bad.. a few building blocks a few books... meh, never hurt anyone.

not to start world war three, but being a "SAHM" is not the toughest job out there... i saw on tv this one guy in india has the job of fishing dead bodies out of the river ganges(sp?) oh and how about those crab fishermen, that looks pretty tough. of course im only kidding, being a mom has to be super tough, but kirst, you make it look easy.

K said...

and being nathan is a pretty tough job too...
;-)

--Nathan-- said...

yeah, its pretty tough keeping all the girls off. i mean... sometimes a guy just wants his space, but all the ladies just want a piece.

Dayna said...

Nathan is hilarious!

Kirsten, I totally understand what you're going through. I'm now finished work until Baby Spanos 2 is born and I just don't have the energy to clean up after Gabrielle. I usually use her nap time to tidy up but then wait until Stelios' days off to do major cleaning so he can entertain Gabrielle. I've learned though that it's only toys, and that if I can at least keep the house CLEAN and as germless as possible, then the un-tidyness is okay. And I'm TOTALLY okay with un-tidyness if it means Gabrielle is having fun. Oh boy, I can't wait for number two!!! I'll be calling you for advice then!

Hez said...

You do great Kirsten... Don't let anyone else try to tell you that you don't. A clean house doesn't mean you're a good mum... if all you do is clean, how great of a parent are you? (Not saying that ppl with clean houses aren't good parents... but I think you get my drift.)

And yes, being Nathan MUST be tough... How do you do it??